This thread is like the movie "The Good, the Bad and the Ugly", different posts suit different categories.
Hubby's chapter of Sigma Chi had a few Jewish members and one Gay that nobody knew (for sure) until later. (He fell off a float during a Gay Pride parade and died) During the course of pledgeship, the Jewish members became known and Hubby was like-What the heck? Jewish members in a Christian fraternity?
BUT, it was a question of belief systems NOT the fact that they were Jewish. It did NOT affect his ultimate feelings for his brothers. He DID find it in conflict with the basic foundation of Sigma Chi. As a fraternity, it worked, but he always wondered how they could find the same meaning in the rituals as those raised Christian.
Each chapter has their own belief system as do individuals within that chapter. What works on one campus may not on another.
Blanket statements just don't work, especially when you are dealing with issues of this nature.
I think ktsnake put it beautifully-It's not that simple.
I hope that wherever an individual ends up, they are there for the right reasons and in a situation where they can be who they really are and not "hide". Otherwise, what's the point?