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Originally Posted by cr2817
Adpiucf- Just going off by what he's told me, he isn't afraid to walk away. I think it's more that he was not aware of this happening and (his words not mine) "wants a brotherhood founded on something stronger than hiring strippers". His opinion and view on the situation, not mine.
DubaiSis- we both are in 100 percent agreement with you. Part of the reason we asked this question is because I thought I had read before that some frats at other schools have gotten in trouble for having strippers come to their house. As for moving interests, out of the 6 houses he's spoken to, all have mentioned strippers. There are more frats on campus then 6, but he's starting to become discouraged. It also doesn't help that my school is consistently in the "top party school rankings" so these guys may be trying to live up to a reputation.
Either way, my boyfriend is rethinking going through recruitment now (hopefully recruitment the word for guys too!) but for other reasons other than strippers  but thank you again for your input everyone! Next time he has a question, I'll make HIM post it  |
At the bolded: during rush (recruitment), it is not unusual for a chapter (not all) to primarily present the “fun” side of the brotherhood. That by joining the chapter, you not only will have the brotherhood, but the “fun” that goes with it.
And it is also not usual for chapters to brag and boast about their social activities. And since one chapter has mentioned strippers, the other chapters might feel it necessary to mention that they too have – or had – strippers at an event. They may feel a need to do so to be competitive. Especially if the campus is viewed as a “top party school”.
And for what it is worth if he feels uncomfortable, he can always skip the event as adpiucf noted. Unless strippers are part of ritual and/or mandatory.
Again, what others have said is spot on. He needs to talk with the members and ask them about his concerns. It may be simply more boasting than anything else.
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Originally Posted by cr2817
DGTess- I may have used the term "friend" too lightly. More that they were all in his grade at the same high school. I guess acquaintance is a better word! He transferred to our school, so these are really the only people he knows.
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Even if these men are just acquaintances, he should still talk to them regarding his interest in the fraternity. Generally speaking, acquaintances become our friends - but only after we get to know them. And getting to know members of the fraternity is part of what rush is all about.