[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by gatorgeneration

Thank you so much for everyone's kind words!

I spoke to about a dozen girls and met probably close to 25 while out with the ladies. I felt a little awkward while there, but the recruitment chair that invited me helped to introduce me to others. Unfortunately, I just didn't feel a connection with these ladies. I had a feeling this wasn't the chapter for me during formal recruitment, but I wanted to give this opportunity a shot. While nice, they did not seem to be a group of girls I would personally go out and befriend for various reasons. The whole PC 12 was there, along with probably 50 or so additional sisters, and I just couldn't see myself as apart of this particular sorority's PC. No one seemed to have similar interests as me, and many of them had different, I guess, priorities than me. I'm a very observant person, and I usually can trust my gut instinct, and this time it was telling me I just wouldn't fit in here.

During my short recruitment, I did get this feeling of belonging at three houses. Trusting my gut, I decided to send an email to the three chapters thanking them for their hospitality and asking about COB. Two have replied, one saying they would keep me in mind if they happen to have any drops. Keeping my fingers crossed!

I'm going to be honest here and hopefully you will understand that rather than take it as me being mean.

The groups who are actually participating in COB are your best shot.

Generally speaking, a chapter with no open spaces right now isn't going to have any drops. Women don't just drop out of those groups.

In the unlikely event that someone does drop out or depledge from one of those groups, generally speaking, that spot is going to be filled by someone they already are familiar with who maybe didn't participate in FR (ex: a good friend of another sister whom everyone likes.)

Or they may not even fill the spot at all and just wait until next formal recruitment.

So of course, trust your gut. But understand that it may mean potentially not being Greek (if these likely already full groups don't contact you.) If that's okay, then cool.