[Hartofsec]

The OP’s impression is actually not unreasonable – it is understandable, even according to the advice given on this message board:

I wasn't in a sorority but was under the impression that the sororities were very picky about the kinds of girls they let in.

PNMs are told to hide evidence that they drink and party -- to clean up their fb and other social media, and not discuss booze, boys, etc.

Girls participating in deferred recruitment are advised to be cautious regarding their campus behavior. It seems that the sororities themselves are not very “open minded” about heavy drinking, drug use, and sleeping around among PNMs on the front side of recruitment. Sororities absolutely are “judgy” about not-so-classy behavior among PNMs.

In-state girls are more likely to have a known reputation (for better or for worse), since girls from their high schools are likely to be scattered among the chapters. Typically less is known in the reputation department about OOS girls.

Here is some of the advice stickied on this forum:

Keep a clean online profile and a classy image in real life!

Good grades and a classy reputation are also strong factors. If you’ve embarrassed yourself academically or socially during the school year, it may not be in your best interest to pursue sorority recruitment a second time.

5) Project a classy image in real life and online. Avoid joining questionable groups/posting tasteless photos or posts on the internet (i.e.: LJ, Facebook, My Space, etc.)

And this advice is given all while girls are told to be “themselves” during recruitment.

So unless someone can explain why there is little open-mindedness regarding this behavior before bid day, but plenty of open-mindedness from that point forward, then Bamajama’s confusion is understandable.

I think she just inadvertently pointed out the double standard that we all know exists.