[33girl]

Basically the RFM specialists are kind of like your mom and dad giving you $1000 to spend for the year's school clothes and telling you that's it for the year - you won't get a penny more. They will, however, not influence your choices at all. If you want to blow the whole wad at the Jimmy Choo store and be wearing last year's shirts, that's your business.

Girls who have parents that do this learn to budget wisely and assess what will last the longest and give the most wear. They may make some really bad steps along the way, but that's part of what their parents are trying to teach them - a lesson that they would have never learned if the parents kept giving them money all the time.

There are too many chapters out there who I dare say overvalue their own popularity because for years and years they've had nothing but full parties. Finding out that not everyone rates you #1 is a good thing, in the long run. Many of those girls at your full parties may have only been there to give you the once-over and knew dang well they would not fit in at all.