[Kevin]

Dylo, please consider what you personally observe versus what others tell you. On a small campus, rush is war. Everyone is scrambling for limited resources (you) and some houses will stop at nothing to win. That includes spreading rumors, general trash-talking, etc.

If they house has a widespread reputation for date rape, that's one thing. You probably don't want to be an accessory to a felony. Do consider, however, that your information about that house might not be completely accurate.

That said, as to the individual yelling derogatory remarks at other fraternity members, that shows a huge lack of self-confidence--kind of pathetic. With that, the gay fraternity and the try hards, you could very well be talking about my alma mater.

Don't judge a house by the stupidity of one member, take the whole thing in, take your time during recruitment to see which organization's values align most with yours and pull the trigger. Good luck.