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This is a powerful thread; the loving advice, sincere empathy and comfort (without being rainbow-blowing or treacly) from your Panhellenic sisters is awesome. I look at the user names and am pleased to see that you're getting responses across the board from NPC women. I'm adding this thread to my "file of threads to bump at recruitment time".
The whole "statistics" of recruitment itself is mind-blowing. I see legacies go in every direction here at Arizona. Sometimes we meet a legacy and fall in love with her and the feeling is not reciprocated. It works both ways; a legacy loves the chapter, but it doesn't fall out that way. I've seen sisters of actives go to different chapters. It happens, and we all adjust. Your daughter is happy now; and you are a classy woman to take the high road. There are many NPC women who throw fits and say "I'm never supporting (insert name of chapter here) again, how could they do this, blah blah blah".
Give time time. Don't wallow in this; day by day, the hurt will lessen. It works that way.
As I often say: things happen for a reason, and that reason is for ultimate good. Please come back and update us on how your daughter is doing and how you are doing also.
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"One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision." Bertrand Russell, The Triumph of Stupidity
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