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Originally Posted by debann127
Im just wondering if in fact she only likes one should she suicide. What are the ramifications of that? Anyone know?
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The ramifications are extensive. She has a much greater chance of walking to her room empty handed. That means zero choice. So she goes to three pref parties and ranks 1-2-3. Her best case she opens her envelope to reveal her #1 choice. She might also open her envelope and have choice 2 or 3. If she suicides, she very well may have no envelope at all, and she could be okay with that. But she needs to get on these boards and read the "I didn't get my first choice" threads. They are eye openers. There are also MANY women who get their first choice and their end result is unhappiness because they bid a reputation and not a reality.
What ever she does (and only she can make the decision that is right for her) she need to tread carefully and not come across as a brat. Many girls that suicide and don't have a positive result will start the "Greek's suck" rant and many that stick it out and get choice 2-3 end up having a "I had to settle" breakdown...publicly...in front of others who's house was their number 1 choice. If she thinks through the scenarios, she needs to be able to live with what she chooses. She can't have regrets and she won't be given a second chance.
By placing a suicide bid, she is either in or out. She can't be out then freak and say well 2 or 3 is better than none. At that point it is too late and not a soul will feel sorry for her. If she can walk away empty handed and not have an iota of regret, then have her go for it. If she ranks out and gets choice 2 or 3, she has a more relaxed 6-8 weeks to make that choice, in my opinion, a much wiser decision.