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I had a similar discussion with my friend last night who is a relationship counselor. I'm going to try to paraphrase it:
In the initial start of relationship there is the honeymoon phase where all you do is "hit it" and spend a ton of times of the special, new, exciting person. After a while, which could be weeks or years depending on the person/couple, one person begins to look for breathing room. This is often where people have problems because usually one person gets to this point before the other. This is one of the biggest and most common problems in relationships.
How you get beyond that is up to you. Try to talk it out with her, going to therapy, giving up, etc. Depends on how big a problem it is. My friend says that about 90% of the people who come to see him have this problem or it is the base cause for the majority of their problems.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years and we are still working that out. It will also vary with where you two are in the relationship, some times there will be more need for friends, other times not so much.
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