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Originally Posted by Iota Man
Do any of y'all have issues with your friends vs. your significant other?
What's y'alls take on this? or how does this work with you and your girl/boy? Any of y'all who are single ever get mad when your girl or boy changes up when they got a new girl or boy? Then when some shit goes down, they want to hang again?
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If a guy gets possessive about the people with whom I spend time, it's a huge
red flag for me. That said, 2 years ago I was seeing a guy who really didn't want to me spend time with a specific group of friends. He hated them, but couldn't explain to me why he did. When we broke up, he tried to insinuate that it was because I had chosen them over him, when that wasn't the case at all--I chose ME. I'm an extrovert and, regardless if I'm in a serious relationship or not, I need to have an active social life. Even in our case, it was maybe 55/45 in his favor, and it still bothered him that I wasn't willing to give up my friends.
Of course, that's probably not your experience. I've had friends (both male and female) who give up their friends when they enter relationships and that's obviously not healthy. Your relationship with Brandi is still relatively new, so 50/50 is probably a healthy mix, and it probably fluctuates from time to time. Your friends may be bitter about your not being around as much, but they'll get over it eventually--unless you really are becoming "that guy."