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Originally Posted by HopefulPNM

On bid day, I was given a bid from my absolute last choice. It wasn't that there was a problem with the girls, they were very sweet, it was just that I felt very uncomfortable around them and that I didn't belong there. My Rho Gamma convinced me to "run home", and said that if I still didn't feel comfortable after doing so, I have the option of dropping out of the sorority.

My question is, if I do decide to drop out, would I even have a chance during next year's recruitment, or would the fact that I dropped a house put up a red flag in all the other sorority's next year?
I know that recruitment is generally harder for sophomores overall, but if I get involved on campus and maintain a very good gpa, would that help my case?

Basically, would the fact that I dropped a house due to feeling that I didn't belong there completely kill my chances, even if I had a very good resume next year?
Going Greek is very important to me, but it's not worth it to feel uncomfortable in my own skin whenever I meet up with my sisters.

Is your school really competitive?

If we're talking Bama or Auburn level competitiveness here, ponder your decision before taking any action.

Everyone's immediate reaction to disappointment is to drop out and try again, but recognize that this is could very likely be your best shot at being Greek.

Also, I am unsure of what your motivations are for depledging, but also consider that if you think you can get a bid to a "better" chapter next time, the chapters who are considered to be the "best" are most likely not going to bid a sophomore 2x rusher. Not saying this is what you think, but many PNMs think "Oh this wasn't a cool chapter, I'll rush next year for a better one" not realizing that the ones they want so badly don't even typically pledge sophomores.

I would also suggest reading these before making any decisions:

Advice on not getting your first choice: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=106678

Upperclassman quota and rushing as upperclassmen: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=121221

I didn't get my first choice- does it get better? http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=121412

And this particular post about recruitment/connections/etc. Sure, grades help, but much of competitive recruitment DOES center on relationships and who you know. You can have it all on paper, have the best grades in the world, but knowing people matters, ESPECIALLY as a sophomore. http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...40&postcount=6

This is not to scare you or doscourage you, I just see a lot of PNMs saying "maybe it will be different next time" not really seeing what they're getting into (which is why Rho Gammas encourage you to give your new chapter a try. Because it's not so easy.)

Best of luck with whatever you decide!