Quote:
Originally Posted by Titchou
And to the poster who brought up 35 year old GOSSIP about my chapter, that's stooping pretty low to just say you didn't like what I said to the OP about doing whatever she had to do to pay the freight. It's people like you who contribute to a bad atmosphere for any challenged chapter. How you can think that gossip form that long ago is relevant to anything today is beyond me.
|
I responded to comments floated by others regarding my ignorance of your identity, as if your identity pardoned the comments and ridicule you directed to the OP.
The fact that your own chapter at UofA was challenged, dwindled in membership, and closed is not "gossip" -- it happened, as you already know. My opinion that the girls there would have benefited from the help of committed alums is based on my observation. I (as well as almost every other freshman girl on campus) walked past your chapter house every day during the trek from Tutwiler to class.
Neither my statements of fact nor my observations "stoop" to suggest that anyone should have just skipped lattes to fund improvements to the house, for instance, or anything else. I did not pass judgment on their sorority experience based on some arbitrary measure (as with amount of house bill in this thread), or (retrospectively) waggle a judgmental finger in the faces of their parents.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Titchou
It's people like you who contribute to a bad atmosphere for any challenged chapter.
|
Blaming other people for your own chapter's challenges and subsequent closing is inconsistent with your sweeping statements regarding personal responsibility and what parents of my generation are teaching their daughters.
I don't have any idea why your chapter struggled with membership -- this was during a time when girls could indeed "drop" a chapter early in the week and never return. Perhaps the system in place today is more advantageous for chapters that struggle with numbers.
Recruitment is a competitive process for the chapters as well as for the PNMs. I guess you could include this on your list of "harsh realities." Blaming other people for your chapter's challenges makes no more sense than a PNM blaming other PNMs for her own recruitment problems.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Titchou
How you can think that gossip form that long ago is relevant to anything today is beyond me.
|
Frame of reference. When someone snatches opportunities to ridicule and judge other people who are in vulnerable situations, there is almost always more to the story.
I'm just being
frank, of course.
Nonetheless, best wishes toward continued success in the re-colonization of your chapter at Bama. The new house is just fabulous, and I'm sure plenty of outstanding young women will be proud to call it home.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Titchou
I do not advise at FSU but see an error in my group's listing of what's included. So I wouldn't place absolute faith in this printed information either.
And to the poster who brought up 35 year old GOSSIP about my chapter, that's stooping pretty low to just say you didn't like what I said to the OP about doing whatever she had to do to pay the freight. It's people like you who contribute to a bad atmosphere for any challenged chapter. How you can think that gossip form that long ago is relevant to anything today is beyond me.
And to those of you who think I was harsh, harsh doesn't mean wrong. Harsh is a dose of reality to a parent to came here expecting us to do be able to correct something over which we have no control. No, I don't know her personal situation. But I know she has 4 children which she intends to put thru college - by her admission. So, she's not exactly on poverty row. Will it be hard, probably. But she has stated that as what she plans to do. Other people tell their children they will not pay for any college and the child has to do it themselves. Some will only pay tuition, room and board. That's a personal decision. Some people say "here's $xxxxx" spend it however you want on college." You do what you can do. And if a suggestion to find a way to pay for it (which is all the "give up your lattes" remark was) is off base then I wonder where my baby boomer generation went astray with their children.
|