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As much as this thread has gotten way off track, I think the bottom line here is that parents and students deserve to know what the financial liabilities of any organization are before they choose to join. And for recruitment, that means before they even have to pay their $100-$200 registration fee. I enjoyed looking at the PDF form FSU has and how forthcoming they were about what the fees are and more importantly what they cover. I understand that it can cause some issues of girls not wanting to pledge ABC because they have the highest fees, but isn't that how we as adults, make informed decisions? None of us would go to a car lot and just pick a car without knowing what it cost, what that money buys and how much the insurance would be.
I think the OP in this case had an extremely valid point. She went by what Panhellenic said was average. We all know average is just that, but does anyone think "average" and double it? I know I don't. She also was exhibiting frustration at the veiled process. I don't think she failed to research this situation, I think the information is simply not publicly available.
And about Moms. We all have them. Most people here are either a mom or will be one day. We really have no insight on anyone else's lives but our own. Each of our experiences are different and therefore we can only judge ourselves. I have a very tight bond with my mom. I expect her to go to bat for me and I expect her to rein me in (even as an adult) when she sees that I am going rogue. Daughters are half of their mothers. Asking moms and daughters to separate emotionally durning a very stressful period in both their lives is just not rational. Yes, some moms can just say "you are an adult, have a nice life" but I believe that is very rare. Or perhaps I am not drawn socially to other women who have a discarded relationship with their moms. There is no one in my social circle that does not have an wonderfully close bond with their mothers. (although I do have friends who have lost their moms, but they remain bonded to them) I would not want it any other way. But maybe it is not for everyone. That I can respect.
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