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Every year we get some parent on here trying to figure out a way to keep the DD from pledging a more expensive group. There is just NO WAY to do that once recruitment has started. I'm sorry if they don't like it but that's reality. FIrst of all, the emotion gets in the way. And second of all, while it's a mutual selction process, you have to get an invitation in order to "select." So what happens if only the more expensive groups (and it's hard to know that no matter what) invite her back? And third, it's not fair to the groups if they have women that go thru the process and then drop when they find out their group is one of the ones above the average dues number the parents saw.
Sometimes reality is harsh. Most of us have experienced that in one way or another in our lives. But these types of parents need a dose of reality. They are trying to close the barn door after the horse has left. Other posters on here offered solutions - have the girl work a few hours a week or all summer to help pay the "overage" on the dues. But the OP didn't like those ideas. And she didn't offer any ideas of her own (like get a part time job herself or anything else or offer an explanation of why she couldn't) so I'm not all that synmpathetic towards her. I am towards the daughter. And yes, I am this frank in person. And I have said these same things to a real live personal friend of mine in the past when her daughter went thru. I generally find that being honest when someone asks my opinion is the best option.
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