[IrishLake]

In agreement. Tichou, I think you're being harsh. Not everyone has the same opportunities. Not everyone has the same talents. Not everyone has the same smarts. Things like competative dance or pagaents are an expensive investment themselves. I've been unemployed. So has my husband. We know what it's like to make sacrifices. I had to make sacrifices so our kids could play soccer or take swim lessons. Soccer and swim are much more affordable for us versus gymnastics, dance or riding lessons. So we opt for the cheaper. We still are re-prioritizing a few hundred. Thousands are a much bigger deal. If I offered to ay for my daughters sorority dues, and I found out that the average was not indeed representative of the groups she had remaining as recruitment wore on, I would indeed encourage her to consider the cost. And if she still ended up with the most expensive group, I would offer to pay the amount that I originally had in mind. My daughter would be respnsible for the rest.

I also had a major where my advisors and professors said I wouldn't have time to have a job. We often took weekend field trips that ate into prime work hours. I still had 3. Two of them were only 3 hours a week each and I was able to study while I was working (computer lab monitor and dorm desk attendent). I would still encourage the OPs daughter to find something simple so she is able to contribute. (Oh, and my jobs are what paid for my dues. My parents offered nothing.)