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Originally Posted by Titchou
UGAAlum94: You know, my Momie Dearest told me one time that what she hated the most about me was that I could do whatever I had to do. I took it as a compliment.
I would never have put my child in this position. I would rather have exercised more control over her choice of school than to tell her she couldn't have what her sibling had. My next door neighbors have 3 daughters. Father has a PhD in chemistry. Mother was no slouch either (she has passed away). All 3 girls were told from their youngest years that they would go to school wherever they got the best offer. ALL 3 got full rides - one getting early Med School acceptance too. And the parents paid for the extras. But all 3 danced, entered Miss Alabama, etc to get scholarships. All 3 made above 32 on their ACTs. So no one was short changed. And all 3 have gotten advanced degrees.. One is working on her THIRD masters. I'm just saying that as a parent you do what you have to do. You don't play favorites because you are going to lose that child if you do.
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Well, ideally all parents would plan it out that much and the kids would work hard and be talented enough to earn the full ride, but often people's circumstances change through no fault of their own. Other kids don't have the raw material or testing skills to pull down 32+ ACTs, etc.
And I think what the OP here is experiencing is a sense of bait and switch. She thought she understood the costs based on the averages and believed she could pay them, and in good faith, she encourage the daughter to rush. But in the middle of the process, she began to understand that for some groups, the cost were virtually double what she could afford.
Personally, I don't think I would have gone the route of telling the daughter to rank based on cost. It puts the kid in a weird position of being at fault if she ends up with a group that costs too much. But the OP is just doing the best she can with the position she's in now, IMO.
I hope the daughter ends up happy with one of the less expensive groups and all will be well.