[33girl]

I agree with everyone that said have a candle pass/retreat for sisters and get everything out on the table. It might stir up some old wounds but it sounds as though there are a lot of things festering that need to come out.

Something that always helped us was gathering at the house before we went to events whether they were mixers, educational events, whatever...it's nicer than everyone just dribbling into the event on their own (also makes you look more unified to others) and if you need to talk to somone you can do it within the confines of the house instead of a) making a big public scene or b) holding it in because you don't want to make a big public scene.