[DrPhil]

LOL. I think it is BULLSHIT to give a damn about most of this stuff. Outsiders do not know all of the logistics and aephialum and her husband are among the outsiders.

Attend what you're invited to if you give a damn, give whatever gift you give a damn to give, and stop giving a shit. Or, you can cuss the bride and groom out---why should you be the only ones needlessly thinking about this stuff? Seriously, do whatever you feel you need to do and move on. LOL.