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If you joined through COB, there was at least a small group who met you and spent time with you before extending a bid. Can you talk to one or more of them (invite her/them to coffee, perhaps) and explain that you need help?'
I know where you're coming from -- I'm still very much the loner who has difficulty joining groups even when I know we have things in common (and my chapter was only 15 women). Some techniques that have worked for me are to ask just one person to help introduce me to others with a common interest in something (classes, an extracurricular event, an outside interest, etc.), and to volunteer for a specific task. Not "if you need help, please call me" (which I've found ineffective) but rather "I'd really like to do the artwork for that flyer" or "Can I help by xxx." If there isn't something specific, try to volunteer for a specific committee or subcommittee. You have to find that hook, with or without help.
Hope this gives you some ideas.
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