[justamom]

A very wise, older friend once told me (forgive my term, but this IS a quote)

"A stiff dick has no conscience."

That was of course an overstatement, but still, it stuck with me all these years. As far as the wife is concerned, she has done the best she can and tried to mend the breach. It takes two to build trust and her husband is/was not participating. Sounds like he uses her for a safety net. She may be doing the same since she doesn't leave. This is so destructive for her. I can't even relate to a woman accepting-repeatedly-such transgressions. She needs to find her courage and walk away before she loses her sense of self. I pretty much believe as PhiMuNursie "Once a cheater, always a cheater."

HE SAYS HE WILL STOP
She needs to ask herself WHY would he stop? I'm sure she has made threats in the past, he MUST have known his actions were KILLING her inside...Yet he didn't stop...he didn't care...he knowingly hurt her...
WHAT HAS CHANGED IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE HIM STOP?

Is this what she wants for the rest of her life? That's not love, that's masochism.