[Sciencewoman]

Some of the new members in the chapter I help advise have shared that their parents have similar feelings. Usually this comes up early on when the financial contracts are discussed, and the new member explains that she is paying for everything herself, since her parents are not supportive of her decision to join. As the faculty advisor and new member education advisor, I have offered to talk to parents myself.

I have written a number of letters of recommendation for scholarships, study abroad programs, etc. for the undergraduate women I advise. They have asked me for help with problems they are having with courses, study skills, etc. They call me by my first name, and I am a extra adult resource for them on campus - someone who is bound to the same sisterhood.

Greekdee has listed many of the aspects of membership that address your parents' concerns. I second everything she shared. I can't stand the "Girls Gone Wild" stereotype, which is probably what your parents are worried about (aside from expenses and a distraction from academics, this is the other concern that parents typically have). Sororities set high expectations for membership and conduct, and your parents would be hard-pressed to find a living arrangement and/or on-campus group who would keep a closer eye on you and your behavior. Sororities are also keenly aware of the issues that collegiate women face, and provide educational programming on safety and wellness.

When it came time to help my daughter find recommendations for this coming year, we asked three of my fellow professors, a non-profit director, a retired librarian, and my freshman year roommate. All of these women are successful, highly-regarded professionals. My sister is a member of yet another NPC group, and she is a pediatrician.

I sincerely hope that you are successful in convincing your parents to be supportive! Sometimes it's hard for us to let our 18-year-olds make their own decisions, so be respectful of this transition...it's a hard adjustment for your parents, who are worried about you and want what is best for you as you begin college.