Hi! I am rushing again this year (as a sophomore) and was wondering if any of yall had any advice. I know people say that rushing again won't change results unless something has changed, but here's some background information:
I am originally from the east coast but go school elsewhere, where recs are not required and a large amount of girls join as sophomores. A lot of girls end up in "good" sororities as sophomores.
When going through recruitment last year, I had braces on my teeth and didn't wear clothes I felt that confident in. I am somewhat shy and had trouble making real conversations with the girls. I also felt as if I was putting them on pedestals; so many girls that I talked to at the houses I liked seemed so much "better" than me.
I got dropped by the ones that I liked, but kept with it for a bit. I ended up being left with two very awkward, weak sororities, so I dropped out before pref night.
Since then, I have developed much better conversation skills, have been involved in a couple clubs (with leadership positions). I have since gotten rid of the braces and have nice straight teeth
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This spring, I went to a couple casual open house events for the upcoming fall rush. While a few of them were mildly awkward at times, it was a good experience. Then I went to the open house for the "top" sorority at my school and absolutely loved it. Although they sometimes have a rep of being snobby, the girls were so nice and I connected very well with all of them, and stayed and talked for a few hours without realizing the time. I didn't know many of them going in, but found out that I had some connections to a few of the girls. When I saw the girls I had talked to around campus, they recognized me and spoke to me. This being said, I felt much better about the impending fall rush and felt as if I would be more successful.
I am preparing for rush now, continuing to work on social skills, and am buying nice clothes that are a better reflection of me (people tell me that I am really well-dressed and I take a lot of pride in it; I think it will help me be more confident). Overall though I am much more confident. Also because I understand the process and have a good feel for the sororities on campus, I think I know what I'm doing.
All of this being said, is it reasonable to think that things will turn out differently for me this go round? I don't want a repeat of last rush.
I'm still nervous, and really want this to work out.