[IvySpice]

I don't want to identify my Ivy League school or the GLO I'm speaking about, but to say that "NPC sororities do not haze" just isn't always true. The national organizations are anti-hazing. This does not mean that NMs don't get hazed.

I'm not talking about an isolated incident; this was the regular modus operandi at more than one house. NMs had to dress up like streetwalkers and sing (in front of fraternity pledges) songs about how they were sluts. NMs had to learn and sing songs about how the other sororities on campus were fat pigs. There were lock-ins when no one was allowed to leave the house.

What frustrates me is the disconnect between the presentation of what the organization is about and the experience after bid day. If this is valuable because it creates bonding, then the organization should state proudly to the PNMs that this is what will happen. If it is not valuable, it ought to stop.

To answer the poster's question, I think you have to keep in mind that if what I am describing does not sound like the kind of sisterhood experience you want to have, you can be absolutely sure it won't happen to you. You can be sure as long as you know that you have the strength to walk away from it if it goes on in your chapter. You can stand up and say, "I am willing to show that I value the group in another way, but I don't want to do this." The reaction will tell you really quick whether this group really wants you to be their sister. If they love and respect you, they won't want you to do anything that you'd be ashamed of later. If they don't, it's better to be an independent or try a different group the next year.

-- IvySpice