[irishpipes]

I am a pretty forgiving person, especially to young, inexperienced people, but what really chapped me was that this pnm is a sophomore - she shouldn't be 100% clueless. And, I wouldn't no-rec her to be spiteful, but rather to ensure than an invitation isn't wasted on her. Our chapter at this school does well enough that they have to release a lot of PNMs. She is attractive with a decent resume, so they might give her a chance otherwise, but she has already shown once that she will drop if she doesn't get a bid from her "list."

gee ess: I don't write blanket recs for PNMs I don't know. I go to a lot of trouble, making calls, sending texts, etc. to my friends in the community. Someone always knows a PNM and can give me useful insight. It is a lot of trouble though, and not something I am willing to do for this PNM.

As for alerting the rest of APH, the PNM took care of that herself by including her "list" in the email she sent to APH asking for help securing recs.

I guess mostly it is disheartening that after going through recruitment once, and being on campus for a year, there are still PNMs who can't see any kind of big picture, and would be so ungrateful and rude to people who are trying to help.