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Originally Posted by irishpipes
I just got a generic request from our local alumnae Panhellenic to write a rec (I'm the rec chair). The pnm wrote an email stating she'll be a sophomore, rushed at this very competitive school as a freshman, but dropped out of rush. She goes on to list which sororities she is interested in - mine not being one of them. (but all chapters she listed are very desirable.). For those of you ho write a lot of recs, how would you handle this? My inclination is to not lift a finger to help her, and to no rec her so my chapter doesn't waste an invite on her.
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I had this situation happen to me once. To make it even worse, the PNM was standing in my kitchen when she said this! She had waited until the WEEK BEFORE Bama rush to obtain recs, and got my name from our alumnae chapter website. Since I was insanely pregnant at the time, I asked her to bring the materials to my house. This was also a ploy for me to actually meet her/lay eyes on her without me having to drag my tired self out of the house.
She shows up (late) in gym shorts and a tee-shirt. I invite her in, and just chat a little bit to get to know her. She then states "Oh I'm going to be either a ABC or an XYZ." After almost choking on my drink at what a rude comment to make WHILE STANDING IN MY HOME I did manage to compose myself. Despite wanting to ask "Then what are you even doing here" I let it go. It would be one thing if those chapters were realistic for her. However, even only knowing her for 3 minutes, I knew that this young lady did not have the presentation, grades, resume, or connections to have a prayer at either chapter.
Since she was a guest in my home, I took the high road and remained civil. I steered the conversation to the recruitment process to gauge her knowledge of that. She didn't have a clue, and in fact argued with me on what mutual selection meant. Despite my polite attempts to encourage being open to all chapters, she continued to insist that PNMs would be doing the choosing each day on where they wanted to go.
I have no idea why she bothered to even ask me for a rec. After that encounter I had zero interest in recommending her for my organization. What a waste of both of our time.
Once the Bama bid list was posted, I couldn't scan each house for her name fast enough. What a shocker- no bid for her!