[candygirl]

Everytime homosexuality becomes the topic of discussion amongst my friends, this post pops up. My roommate and I are grappling with the fact that homosexuality is real among the African American men on our campus. We don't know who's gay, who's bi, who has tendencies, or who's curious. Although the situation has been discussed to no end, we still haven't come up with anything that would determine "in our eyes" homosexuality. In this day and age you just can't look at the overly feminine men and say they're the gay ones. We have to scope out the ones who "look" heterosexual and wonder about them as well. My friend said that she thinks guys who date and have sex with too many women are gay and they're hiding it through this sort of activity. I not going to say that I totally agree but I have my suspicions. We have to go into our relationships asking men "What are your goals in life, are you married, do you have any kids, and are you gay,bi,curious,or struggling with your sexual identity." Since homesexuality is so hard to discern women need to make sure they're doing whats right for they're own health and safety. Use condoms, get annual or biannual health examinations, and make sure you get and HIV/AIDS test every six months.

As far as sharing your sexual perference/lifestyle with you're significant other, well that's a whole nother(yeah I meant to say nother) can of worms. They're many reasons why these men and women don't tell their significant others. For one, some of the "Homothug" men don't believe they're gay; as was discussed in previous post. Some men and women are struggling with they're sexuality. If they don't quite understand what's going on why should they tell someone else. Some are afraid of judgement and others just don't care enough to share this valuable information with you.

Since this issue has resurfaced with my friends we are really shooken up at the prospect that past boyfriends or even current significant others may be gay. Is a he gay if he propositioned me for anal sex(which I think is disgusting), is he gay because he crosses his legs like a woman would, is he gay becuase he cried at that movie, is he gay because he's a little too homophobic. This issue really has us trippn'