[delph998]

I have a friend who's God fearing,beautiful, intelligent, goal-oriented; everything a man would want in a woman. She had been in a relationship with the same guy for two + years. Everything was going great, until she decided that she needed to come home from college and finish school. Due to the distance, she and her boyfriend broke up. About a month after the break up, she received a phone call from one of her friends saying that she saw my friend's ex-boyfriend in a gay club dancing intimately with another guy. At first, she didn't know how to handle the news...but finally she decided to call and ask him. With hardly any persistance, he admitted that he was gay the entire time of their relationship. When she told me the story, I asked her were the signs there. She said that he never persuaded her to have sexual relations with him, and his family was overly excited to meet her. Yet, she took that as a sign that he had been a player and they were happy that he settled down. Not once did she think he was gay. As a result of this, she's very scared to get into a relationship any time soon.

This is just one of many cases where men have been in relationships with women but were wearing "beards" to hide their true sexuality. There are many, many rappers who look and act thuggish, but are gay. There are TOO MANY gospel artists who try to save souls through their music, but are living this secret lifestyle. There are many women who have contracted HIV/AIDS and other STDs due to men living like this. How do we, as women discern if a man is wearing a "beard" or not? More importantly, why are we living in a society that's so sick that men and women would live this type of lifestyle without telling their significant others?