Ok, so I'm replying to myself...
Anyways, I don't think I was too clear on the substitution part. You need to switch the * with = and the ( ) for an actual color, font, size, whatever. So you shouldn't have any star things or parenthesis in your html code at all.
Also, there's a website where you can use cute smiley faces in your messages.
http://www.plaudersmilies.de/ When you go to use the smiley face, make sure that the vB Code is checked to the Enchanced Mode. (The vB Code is in the left hand colum of the post reply.)
LITP~Beth