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You obviously know your daughter better than any of us, but once it is time for me to prepare my (3 year old) daughter I will be frank with her that recruitment is a unique experience that has ups and downs. I will prepare her that finding a sorority home is not as easy as "signing up on the clipboard" of her favorite house. I will prepare her that houses that she loves may have a list of PNMs that they love, and that being released from houses is part of the process for the overwhelming number of PNMs. I will tell her chin up, head high, and face each day with a smile. I will advise her to find SOMETHING that she likes/loves about every house on campus. That way, if a favorite releases her, she can focus on the positives that she has already identified in her remaining groups.
And to steal advice that 33Girl once gave, I will also counsel her to face each day's list as if those groups are the only groups on campus. Those that are gone are gone, so no use dwelling.
As to the ins/outs behind the scene, I won't go into much detail there. The PNMs already have enough to stress about/over-think. I don't want to add to that. I want her to focus on what she can control and just relax about the parts that she can't control. I will educate her about good conversation skills, and how that can have an impact on her rush.
Good luck to your daughter.
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