[Tulip86]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yes, there can be a HUGE difference between initiated sisters from different chapters. There are some chapters I would have never had a prayer of getting into, some chapters I would have fit right into, and some chapters I would not have wanted to be part of if I was paid (and yeah, that includes some "extremely competitive" chapters). That doesn't make them evil betrayers of sisterhood. As I touched on, sometimes the Greek system AS A WHOLE is so different from school to school you just wouldn't feel comfortable. I would never want to be in a huge SEC chapter, period, and most of the Greek alums from my school (regardless of chapter) feel the same way.

I mean, we pick women ultimately based on whether they fit into the chapter in some intangible way. Let's not pretend that just because you go through a ritual or two, that all gets swept under a rug and "OMG! You're my sister!! Love!!" Should women be given every chance and a bit of time to meet and try to fit in with the chapter, as AnchorAlumna said? Yes. Should BOTH sides realize that it may not work? Yes.

And that "death throes" comment was a little ridiculous. If anything, those chapters should be just as careful, if not more, about letting anyone affiliate.

Thanks for the explanation, I've only experienced/seen Greek life at a school where it's very laid-back and these SEC/huge Greek system schools remain somewhat of an mystery.