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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Obviously having a special needs child ups the ante with that stuff, but I've seen it ramp up big time because women are waiting later to have kids and they're focused on it in ways that younger mothers aren't necessarily. Becoming a parent, for my circles (educated women who focused on a career for nearly a decade before having a very planned child), is this major PROJECT, way more than it was for our mothers' generations.

It's kind of a luxury to compete with other women over this stuff--I don't see a ton of teen moms pulling this stuff.

This is very true. My kid's moms fell (for the most part) into this category (late 30s/early 40s new moms.)

More likely than not, if kids come into the picture, I'll end up falling into the same category (decade of career/education focus, 30s or 40s mom), but I'm pretty set on not having bio children for a number of reasons. I'm not sure how mompetition ramps up with adoption, but I'm oh so sure it exists.