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Originally Posted by spat1
I'm rushing a year later than normal for my school.
One of the current brothers borrowed my laptop last night while I was out of the room (he had my permission). He logged out of his email, but apparently didn't realize had a nice powerpoint open -- PNMs.ppt
I had no idea such a thing even existed -- they have an exhaustive list of every potential new member. One or more slides per person-- complete with their facebook profile photo, descriptions of them from brothers (signed with a number not a name), and a LOT of really hateful things for the people they don't like/don't want in. Even some weird things like comments on penis size (how the hell do they know anyway?)
Nothing negative was said about me-- in fact it seems they want to give me a bid. However, it was really disheartening to read some of the horrifically cruel things that they said about some other students I know.
The slideshow also included "proposed" hazing activities...things way more hardcore (and gay as fuck) than I would have imagined.
As you might suspect, I'm now having second thoughts about this process. People that I consider my friends have been writing these horrible things and their pledging is clearly far nastier than I ever would have believed.
What do?
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If you don't want to participate in "gay as fuck" hazing, then pledge somewhere else. Of course you really don't know what sort of context that was to be presented in, so it's entirely possible that was offered in a joking fashion. I don't know how horrible these things which are said actually are, but I would venture to say that this group's behavior in this context is less than honorable. That sounds important to you, so again, you're going to have to decide how much that matters.
It's not unusual for a group to put together power point slides to decide to whom they will be giving bids.
The fact is though that you're going to have friends anywhere you get a bid. You may not now, but you will. It sounds like you ought to be exploring your options.