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Originally posted by neicy81
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Originally posted by Swamp Thang
"I feel that if you love someone you would be willing to wait for them"
That statement is as unfair as the vica-versa of the statement that Men have used for years (which is)
I feel that if you LOVE ME, you would be willing to HAVE SEX for them...
That statement is selfish at best. If you do love her, you WILL wait. If not, then why did you pursue a relationship with her in the first place?You can't tell me that a person should stifle her beliefs to satisfy your horniness. That doens't make sense at all.What about religious beliefs?She should love God more than you?*shaking head at you*
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I agree that sex should not be the primary, utmost defining factor in a relationship, and that people do not "NEED" sex. It is possible to remain celibate--I have. But, you have to respect the ideals of others. If a man says he needs sex for the relationship to be fulfilling, then that's his opinion and instead of being upset or angry the woman should not try to change him--she should move on. Neicy, what you just said, turned around, could be used to justify a man's asking for sex. The way you are putting it trivializes some people's views about sex. Not everyone views sex as an act to satisfy their impulses. Many people view sex as an intergral part of a romantic relationship, an act that brings both people in the relationship closer together--and thus not a trivial act bestowed upon any old person walking down the street.
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Originally posted by tooicecold1906
If the two of us decide that we want to be in a relationship, that means that we are both willing to accept one another for whatever! I personally would accept my girl's decision to remain celibate. This is showing her that I respect her, want to be with her, and truly care about her feelings/beliefs. The problem with sex nowadays is that people take it for granted. Patience is a virtue. If all of that was too complicated for you, think about this old addage that is applicable to everything in life:
"Every good thing is worth waiting for".
Peace
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I commend you on being able to respect the woman's decision. There aren't enough men in the world like you. However, not every person feels the way you do about sex. Therefore, it is foolish to presume that one can change a person or persuade them to agree with how they feel about sex. Your argument about sex, can be used to support the opposing side of the issue. Let's say, for example, that you wanted to have sex and your girlfriend did not. You could say that your girlfriend is not respecting your feelings/beliefs.
It's a matter of what Swamp Thing has stated: Look for a person that is compatible with your beliefs and practices, and respect one another's decisions. I would respect a man if they did as Swanp Thing would and straight out said that we should just be friends and respected my decison, rather than attempting to force me to change. As you said, "every good thing is worth waiting for", so if a person's partner wnats to have sex and you don't, for example, then that person needs to "wait on God" to bring them the person who is right for them.