[Sciencewoman]

I've been helping my daughter make recommendation contacts for recruitment next year. Many sororities' rec. and legacy intro. forms are publicly available on their websites, so a PNM can see what specific info. rec writers might need. Tri-Delt's is not public, but Kappa's and Theta's both have prominent policy messages on the form, such as "Alumnae and other collegians may not make contact with the chapter during recruitment", "You may not send food or gifts of any kind to the chapter", etc. Sounds like they have had some experience with alumnae like your Grandma! Maybe Tri-Delta's form has a similar message, and that could help with Grandma.