Originally Posted by swarmina
I can't tell you what this innocent error or whatever has hatched in some of you. I have planned to keep all my family pins together on my stole, forever. I would never wear one but my own, and I think I can understand the spirit of this discussion, but some of you people have said some truly ugly and hideous things. I tried to locate a moderator to just pull off the post, but the mods for this forum have been off GreekChat for some time. I tried to delete it, but the msgs where people quoted still remain. I also have been in contact with DG headquarters by email, FB, and just now by phone. I have been informed thus far that it is not imperative to return a deceased member's pin/crest jewelry, but now that I have been called a LIAR, I want to talk to someone willing to have me post their name and to have a firm knowledge of what DG desires of the pieces. People calling me a liar, people accusing me of bringing up my brother's disability as an excuse, holy cow. GET A LIFE people! I mean, I am a Neonatal Intensive Care Nurse. People have babies that die, that have horrible problems, babies that need emergency surgery sometimes when they are as tiny as baby birds, moms that die in childbirth, babies hospitalized for months-years sometimes. Is this pin issue really worth all this energy... all this negative, nasty energy? I mean, go feed some orphans or something people!
I am utterly flabbergasted at what began as a request for help identifying what exactly this crest pin was has turned into this. My brother wore the pin as a gesture of love toward a woman who met a great deal to him. He is not Greek, so he has no knowledge of any rules about this. I knew nothing of his even having anything of the sort in his possession until he visited me last week and we were sharing old photos and mementos/memories.
Honestly, a Greek cherishing loved ones mementos of their Greek common histories is something that has made my commitment and love for my own sorority even stronger. It has led to me sharing that same feeling with my two growing girls, hopeful future Greek geeks like I was. But this has shown me the balance of the sad fact that there is kind of a dark, exclusivity, mean side to some people who are also attracted to Greek organizations. Was there not a kinder, better way to have communicated any of this?
I had just started to enjoy this forum, posted old photos that I took time to find just to share the enjoyment with others. Actually got excited about some old memories and looked forward to sharing love of all things Greek on here. Crap...ran into some people who seem to be quite a piece of work. From what I have been able to ascertain thus far, I have made no errors or mistakes in my holding on, handling of the ones that I have from four separate GLO's. I leave this post in good conscience that nothing was done wrongly. Not everyone who participated in this lively discussion can say the same.
Now back off...cease & desist. NOTHING more can be gained from this discussion, so move on.
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