[DubaiSis]

Adding women to your fraternity is not going to help you achieve numbers because it's going to cause you to have to completely rewrite your mission and probably a bunch of other stuff just to make that possible, and in so doing you'll probably turn off your existing or potential new members. There are some good co-ed fraternities out there, but I think that was part of their initial mission and not something they tacked on later.

If you are growing at the pace you say, worrying about attracting a wider pool of people seems unnecessary. The NIC fraternities have thousands of active members at any given moment, but it has taken most of them literally 100+ years to get there. I would worry about what you have now and grow incrementally, not exponentially. You're going to have enough growing pains without feeding them with gender issues.

If it's something you want to do at some point, you need to start with re-wording your mission statement to be either gender inclusive or gender neutral. And you need to get over yourself about the smaller chapter/s not getting the same vote. If they're members, they're members. Every NIC fraternity and NPC sorority have stronger and weaker chapters but every last member gets the same responsibility and reward of membership. If you're not cool with that, then you're not cool with your fraternity having more than one chapter.