[melindawarren]

Just read through this thread. Wow. Makes me wonder if I know any perps.

Carnation, she may be a very lovely person, but I know I would be hurt if I'd worked hard to secure a recommendation--only to find out months later that the person lied about her affiliation and I didn't have a rec at all. Truth be told, there's someone who may never have sent my rec (she's definitely a member of the organization, and I can confirm that), and I haven't quite forgiven her for leaving me hanging like that.

I just feel like you have to pull her aside and say, "hey, D, I really feel that it's important that you clarify your involvement with DEF." It definitely doesn't need to be a public event, and maybe she doesn't realize the potential danger in her lie? Maybe she needs someone knowledgable like you to help her realize that this is not really worth lying about.

I just think that it's a potentially bad situation, evidenced by the fact that your daughter bought into it.