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Originally posted by Dexter
I would like to say that I could wait, but let me be honest I GOT NEEDS!!! It's really easy to sit here and say that anyone would wait for there true love but it's not always the case. I could never look at a women that I desire and be in a relationship whereas she doesn't want to share herself with me. It would seem that most of you that are holding out are waiting for a commitment. It's more of a TRUST issue. If you are truly in love with someone and have dedicated your ENTIRE self to him, I cannot undertand you not wanting to share your most intimate and precious part of your love with him. (barring a medical situation) By doing that it seems that YOU are not fully commited to that relationship both emotionally and physically.
Just something to think about.
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Everyone has needs... male and female! I agree that it boils down to a "trust" issue. But the question is who should and shouldn't be trusted?
I don't mean to generalize but the majority of men these days will say anything to get some. "Hit & Runs" didn't die out in the 90s...
If a woman doesn't trust that she can give herself to a man and that he will respect her worth... then she has the right to say "Not until I am sure where this is going." If the guy loves her... he will respect that.
From what I have observed... some women tend to think that by giving a man sex (when he deems it necessary) will keep him. They think "If I do this then he won't cheat because he is getting it all at home- no need to go else where." It saddens me when women fall prey to this mis-conception.
For a woman to stand her ground and say "Hey, I want to take this slow... if you love me... then you will wait for me" that takes a lot of strength.
Trust that when ya'll be kissing on our neck and stuff... we get hot, too
There are several ways to please your significant other without having sexual intercourse. And if a woman chooses not to engage in those activities- so be it.
As Swamp Thang stated... if two individuals want two different things (especially when the situation at hand is something as serious as sex) then maybe they should try to find someone who wants the same out of the relationship.
Sex complicants things- especially when deep emotions are invovled. When two people engage in a sexual relationship there is a lot at risk. As my mother said to me, " There are far worse things out there today to worry about than getting pregnant."
Don't lie to yourself or to the other person if you know that a relationship "without" intimacy isn't what you want.