[33girl]

My mom was NOT into community groups, Eastern Star, Farm Women, hospital auxiliary, anything like that. It just wasn't her bag. She would have much rather worked on a political campaign or stayed at home with a good book. She really didn't get it AT ALL when I told her I wanted to go through sorority rush. I told her "well, the girls I've met who are in sororities are all really nice, they seem to be having fun, and I want to have more friends than my long-distance boyfriend's friends." (Quite prescient of me, since they all stopped talking to me except for APO business matters when he and I broke up.) Once she met my sisters, and saw how happy I was, she got it. I think she may have had a lot of misconceptions (everyone is rich, snobby, etc etc). Your mom may have some of the same fears. She'll get it eventually. However, if she is on the fence DON'T BY ANY MEANS call her during rush, because unless you are extraordinarily lucky you will have a disappointment or two. Keep the number of a good older friend on hand to vent to.