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Originally Posted by TonyB06
Pretty much. I think CG and I differ in the matter of degree. IMO as people mature (40s), generational influences, to the extent they still matter, probably matter much less.
Accordingly, my view of my finance, what moves her and what she's likely to do in a particular situation vis-a-vis family/friend, is much clearer. As is her view/expectation for me also.
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Yeah, I agree with both you and cheerfulgreek because life consists of different degrees. We learn something new about ourselves and others almost daily.
rant/
All of our degrees vary as our experiences vary. It is easy to know all of the answers to our life's problems when things are going well/seem perfect. Sure, "I would never date a person who has these kinds of friends" and "I would never date a person from this type of family" works when our life partner's friends and family are awesome. What happens once we fall in love and our increased interaction with friends and family reveal a little crazy going on. LOL. We expect our life partners to handle that but even then it will not always fit into a peaceful puzzle.
Either way, change can happen quickly and we can find ourselves tolerating things that we never had to tolerate before. We can find ourselves accepting things that our "textbook of life" told us we would never accept. Things that once made sense or sounded so ideal can change in terms of practical application. Things that did not make sense and were not ideal can become practical. We truly do not know what the future holds and we (including super spiritual people who God has anointed and appointed as the Holy Bible of humanity) can learn a great deal about our life partners after we get married, etc. that can make us say "damn, how'd I miss this."
/rant