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Originally Posted by CloseMinded
I’m not saying Greeks are mean. I’m saying for BOTH sides to keep an open mind. These girls want to join and so many are afraid of not getting bids they reach out to us and ask for advice. What they get in return is negative replies of “PNMs never learn. There are no second chances” type attitude. Look from their perspective. They know they “messed up” or are at least facing an uphill battle in getting a bid under these circumstances and now we are being as closed minded to them as they were to the organizations originally. But if you look all over this board you see Greeks telling PNMs to keep an open mind without telling each other to do the same! It’s a double standard that needs to be stopped. We have a chance to give them the impression of Greek Life which is positive and rewarding for all parties involved and welcome them into our community or we can push them away, discourage them and tell the world we think we’re better than everyone else and don’t hold ourselves to the same standards we hold others.
I'm not saying either side is right or wrong. What I am saying is proven in the replies I have received from this. Your holding a negative attitude towards people who are trying to better the community because you think you have all of the right answers. I'm not saying every girl will fit at every (or any even) organization on their campus. I'm saying give them as much of a chance at joining your organization as you would for someone who has never been through the process before!
The title was to get people’s attention more than anything. I wasn’t offending anyone, but if no one reads the post the same attitude is going to discourage more PNMs from joining the recruitment process and those girls who are discouraged could have been your “future bridesmaids” if you gave them the chance.
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We're not mean.. We're honest. The truth hurts sometimes. Second chances sometimes aren't a possibility.
If a PNM can't handle the truth (much like Tom Cruise), that's her issue that she has to deal with.