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Originally Posted by gr33kfan
And to girls in sororities, have you ever had frats on your campus who you just didn't want to mix with? Maybe they do indeed have cool people but also some awkward/shy guys that made you say "ehh we could do without them, we have these cooler frats to mix with anyway"? That's how I feel the situation is with us :/
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At Illinois, the fraternities outnumber the sororities by a lot, so the sororities do a lot of the choosing, but my sorority was on the lower end when it came to popularity with fraternities. Therefore, I felt like we always had the internal debate: Do we want the more popular fraternity, or do we want the fraternity who is really excited to have a mixer with us? When I was younger, I thought it was all about getting mixers with the hottest/most popular guys, and then as I got over it, sophomore and junior year, I was much more interested in mixing with guys who were excited and would throw a good event.
I'm not sure how that is helpful to you, but are you getting to know the women in other situations? For example, you should definitely be participating in their philanthropy events and things like that. Can you invite some girls over for something like a mixer without calling it that? Ask them to stop by for study snacks during midterms or something. Invite them to a barbeque. Sometimes, sororities think in terms of a set number of social events, so they don't want to bump another fraternity for you, but if you did something additional, they'd go along with it.
Finally, have you considered the non-NPC groups on your campus? They may want to party with you, too.