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First of all, thanks for all of the great responses!

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

Serenades. Sorority women love serenades. You don't have to be perfect or even very good for that matter; simply be sincere and entertaining. It will get you noticed in the right way.

We've actually done this! Both singing and dancing, and indeed the girls liked it (even the sororities that will probably never mix with us no matter how hard we try haha).

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Is your fraternity small compared to the sororities (and the other fraternities they mix with)? It is hard for a 150-woman sorority to mix with a 50-man fraternity, for example. We used to address this by having dinner mixers with smaller fraternities, so it was only the in-house women, and it balanced out better.

Also, if you are trying to get on their schedule for the first time, you may just have to foot the whole bill. That won't be a big deal if you can have a BBQ at your house or something.

Most fraternities at my school are in the 50-70 person range (including us), and sororities are 150-200, and the frats and sororities that mix seem to manage. Also, I assumed we would have to pay for everything since the sororities can find other frats who they like more anyway who also probably pay for everything lol.

Originally Posted by pshsx1

Also, how soon are you contacting the sororities?

If you're trying to plan a mixer in December but you waited until November to plan it, they won't have any open dates. Sit down with your VP of Programming or whoever oversees the chapter's calendar and nail down dates that you want mixers. It also helps to figure out what dates the sororities have blacked out every year (ex. formals, rituals, whatever).

That's the biggest problem I ran into when I was Social Chair. Plan early and be persistent are the best pieces of advice I can offer.

I remember in the fall, the social chair contacted sororities in the end of August before school started. Not really sure about this semester though, but he definitely didn't wait until the last minute or anything. I do think the problem was probably not reaching out enough though (such as calling) so I think that is definitely something we should try.

Originally Posted by TSteven

Great ideas LAblondeGPhi.



Just to piggyback on Step 3. As LAblondeGPhi noted, do not overstay your welcome. However, if the social chair is available to talk/meet during your stop by introduction, be prepared to meet with her right then and there. You don't want to wait to set something up down the line only to find her busy.



Some Greek Life offices keep a list of the Social Chairs and their contact information for each GLO. Some schools provide that info on their campus Greek Life page/website. If not on-line, contact the Greek Life office directly and ask them for a list. Be sure to let them know who you are and why you want that information. "I'm the social chair of ABC and we would like to invite the sororities to our XYZ fundraiser."

Thanks for the advice. Although none of the brothers know social chairs directly, I'm sure I could get their info from the friends who I do know.



I guess more generally, at my school it seems like most frats mix with sororities mainly in terms of themed parties. Is it too much to ask for the first time to have a mixer party?

And to girls in sororities, have you ever had frats on your campus who you just didn't want to mix with? Maybe they do indeed have cool people but also some awkward/shy guys that made you say "ehh we could do without them, we have these cooler frats to mix with anyway"? That's how I feel the situation is with us :/