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Originally Posted by pnmfosho
One of the girls who contacted me went to high school with me and was apparently my biggest advocate in the sorority because she saw my leadership in everything I did in high school. Another was the person who wrote my rec who was a recent grad and still came to a lot of recruitment stuff. And the third girl from the emails was the girl who talked to me on theme AND pref night, and I didn't know her at all. I do understand that I will have a lower shot at getting into a sorority this next time. And once again, I didn't decline the bid without considering it. I'm glad I declined it now that I know some girls in the sorority now; the only ones in my honors dorm who wouldve been in my pledge class are the same ones who I've only met when they were extremely drunk...which is a lot. I've worked really hard at my GPA and getting involved this year. I don't care about being the "top house" at all, the reason I was upset with my bid was that the one I got was literally the ONLY one of the 8 where I didn't feel welcome, or like it was my place. I go to Western Kentucky, so the Greek system is competitive but not as crazy as UK or somewhere like that.
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Originally Posted by pnmfosho
Also, my definition of their "optimistic" is showing me how to do the hand symbol for pictures, and specifically finding ME on FB and messaging me to say they were upset when they didn't have to. They told me to keep their sorority in mind and that they would be keeping me in mind as well should I rush again. Also, I haven't gotten much advice yet, just insults on how I wasn't good enough for any sorority I liked..
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First of all, we don't know you. If you have all of these advocates in the sorority of your choice, I have no idea why you're asking strangers on the internet for advice. Ask them for advice. In person. (Although as others have said, those people obviously didn't have enough influence in the chapter to get you a bid the first time around.)
Second of all, recruitment for a sophomore who is rushing for a second time is more difficult at any school. A re-rushing sophomore who turned down a bid has even more obstacles to deal with. Unless something has changed dramatically since your last failed recruitment (and by that I don't simply mean "Yay! No boy drama this time!") you will probably not have a happier outcome.
I know you don't want to hear all of this, but it's the honest truth.