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Originally posted by sphinxpoet
How and why is marriage and divorce the only benchmarks that we have when measuring commitment? Is that why society puts such an emphisis on getting married? Do sisters really think there is a shortage of men or just there is a shortage of men that can deal with you and your specific issues? Just a question or 2?
Sphinxpoet
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Libra, this makes me think of Jazzyfatnastees track 4. "Don't need no house, no picket fence, to show the world that we connect. Don't need no church, no diamond ring, to show the world... unlasting thing (i forget, lol)" I use this to say, marriage is not the end all be all of commitment. I want someone who is committed to me and my well being and growth: physically, mentally, and emotionally. I don't need marriage to prove to me a commitment, that's just a small piece of it. When I think of commitment, I also think of willingness. You are willing to work thru all the BS for the betterment of BOTH parties involved, to make each person and the relationship stronger. Why is it so easy to commit and work hard for an employer but not for a mate? It should be just the opposite. Commitment is important, ESPECIALLY physically. I am sharing the most intimate part of myself with you... and you are sharing yours with whoever? Times have changed, and that's too dangerous. Commitment means supporting each other and being each other's cheerleader!! Marriage is not commitment... there are a ton of married folk who are not committed to each other. Commitment to me is, I am here for you, down for whatever, ALWAYS. Ring or no ring, marriage or no marriage.
I believe that there is a shortage of men who can tell the truth and be monogamous. Not that they are all womanizers, just that they are weak when it comes to turning down the pannies. Men view things differently from us, I think. Didn't you hear what Jay-Z said? LOL! But seriously, I do think that it will be hard to find a man who will be able to handle me, specifically. I am not easy to take. I am loud, I'm smart, I'm not takin' your isht, I have motivation and drive, I look good, I have a lot of friends, I'm very emotional and cry a lot, I will cuss you out in a minute, my family is ghetto, I suffer from depression, I've been told I'm intimidating, and I don't trust men as far as I can lift them in the air. So yeah, I got issues, but like my fuchababyfavah, Musiq, said, "Hey, I got issues, you got issues, we all got issues."
It's time to eat, so I gotta go.
