[Sciencewoman]

^^^ This is very good advice!

I would advise you to figure out what your unique talents and treasures are and play those up. Then present yourself confidently on those terms. If your mom's friend is willing to introduce you to other potential rec writers, she must see things in you that you may not! If you've known some of the other women for a long time, then they know your personality and they should be able to tailor a positive rec. that describes who you are, not a cookie-cutter description that doesn't fit you.

I remember that one of my rec letters for one of the sororities I ended up preffing said something like, "Sciencewoman is able to make a positive influence through her reserved strength." The alumna gave me a copy, so I knew how she had "packaged" me in her rec. It was worded better than that, but it sent the message that I may seem a bit quiet or shy during recruitment, but that I was still a leader. She didn't try to present me as Miss America, or the head cheerleader with loads of charisma. She had known me all my life, and she presented me as I was, in the best possible light.

I do think that getting involved and meeting current sorority members during the fall is a great idea for everyone facing deferred recruitment, no matter how much or how little you were involved in high school extracurriculars.