[FSUZeta]

we used the word "stealing" back in my day, when a sure shot to join another sorority ended up joining what the campus felt was a longshot. as daffykd said, when a pnm who came from a long line of ABC's ended up joining DEF, everyone might say that DEF stole the pnm. it didn't mean that DEF have spent the entire recruitment badmouthing ABC, it could be that they put on a really good recruitment.