I kinda like how we do it at Clarion. We have pref on Saturday morning, and all afternoon we do bid matching. For 15 minutes that afternoon/evening, the pnm's are told to stay by their phones, they will be called if they didn't match...if they didn't receive a phone call, the go to the student union at like 7 pm. Then we have all the girls wait in one room and the sororities wait in another room. One by one, we call all the girls into a thrid room, and we say, "XYZ has invited you to join their sorority...." They then sign their bid and are taken into the room with all the sororities and are presented: "This is jess_pom, the newest sister of Phi Sigma Sigma..." and everyone claps and your sorority cheers and hugs you and stuff.
After all the pnm's get their bids, the RC's are revealed. And then everyone goes back to their house and heads out for the night... I had a lot of fun on my bid day, and I thought it was really special. It's not as devastating, I guess, as being that person who got a bid from a sorority they didn't really want. You don't have to be presented, I don't think.
As for the question about pnm's not getting bids and being told that, I'm worried about that, too. I'm a RC for the fall, and I don't really know what I would say, plus I would feel sooo bad about it...
