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Originally posted by DST Love
Sorry Ideal08, I have to respond  .
No, Blackwatch, YOU feel that if you are engaged you are still single. In accordance with our values and beliefs, my fiance and I strongly disagree.
I agree with you from all of your other aspects. Yes, technically you are single because you are not yet married. And yes to some others things you said. I know that marriage is far different from dating and from being engaged. I also agree that yes you can still leave during the engagement without all of the problems. However, I STILL feel like it's about a state of mind and if a person goes into an engagement feeling like it's still a trial period then perhaps that couple should just keep dating and not even talk about marriage yet. My fiance and I DO NOT consider ourselves single and DO NOT act single. We are both going in the direction of a lifetime commitment and WILL NOT just start it the day of the wedding. So I still say again, to me and my fiance, the "last night" should be before someone proposes and someone accepts. That's what works with our beliefs, values and relationship. If others think differently and it works for them, then so be it.
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And to add to my posts, I still expect and want my fiance to hang out with his boys the night before the wedding. It's no different then when he goes to play pool or hang out with them on any other regular day. I am just disagreeing with the whole "last night" concept of being single, blah, blah.
Note: And by the way, Blackwatch, I always appreciate reading your posts on various topics (even if I may disagree
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