From DST Love...
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You equate being engaged with being single ? To me, the "last night" (so to speak) should be before someone proposes and someone accepts. But I guess that just my and my fiance's warped way of thinking .
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When a person is engaged to be married, they ARE still single, they are not married. I was engaed for 15 months, lived in a seperate city from our folks with my fiancee' for a year (though in different homes) , and I can tell you, being married is quite different from being engaged. During your engagement, you have a committment, indeed, but if you decide this isn't the partner for you, there is nothing dishonorable in leaving, in some situations, it might be considered mature and honorable. When you are married, there are so many more consequences to a person leaving. Spiritually, divorce is frowned upon, legally it's a hassel, psychologically it can be dibilitating, and so on.
As far as the bacheolor party is concerned, I would think that if you were the type of bruh that wouldn't want strippers, your friends would know that and respect your desires. If you are the type of bruh that wouldn't mind strippers, then your fiancee' should know this before she said yes to the proposal of marriage. She was okay with you liking to be "entertained" by strippers in the past, why then now is she objecting? Why wait until the night before the wedding to voice this concern? Does she think you will change over night because you are now married? Newsflash, your partner will change only in the partner's due time. If there is something about your partner that you do not like, you have a decision to make about that behavior WAAAAYYYYY before the bacheolor party. Either you decide that "I do not like this behavior, but what the partner provides in other areas is enough for me to deal with the behavior I do not like" or " I can't live with the possibility of this behavior being around for the rest of my life, therefore I cannot marry this person". Now I am not saying that people do not change, I am saying be prepared if they don't.
Also, trust your mate. If your partner would be the type to engage in a sexual act with another person, then why are you marrying this person? I can say that I never went to a strip club or seen a real life stripper before I got marred. Now that I have been married, and due to the large amount of people in our wedding, I can say that I have been in my share of weddings since my own (you know, returning the favor) and I can say that I have been to a few bacheolor parties with a few strippers. I was not interested in doing anything sexual with these women, I did not even touch them. Personnally, they were attractive women, and seeing them naked was new and diffferent (though I didn't understand the appeal of a naked woman with a fake name, hair , breasts, etc. and no humanity or personality that I could relate to
, purely a sex object.), but they were not my wife, and I have no desire to do anything sexual with a woman that is not my wife. Sex is not just physical to me anymore (But that is another topic). If he wanted to do something sexual with another woman, he probably wouldn't need to hire a stripper to do so, nor will marrying you the next day curb that desire. Again, these are things that need to be resolved before the "Bacheolor party", before the church is even booked.
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